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As Salaamu Alikum I pray that everyone is having a blessed Ramadan Inshallallah. I'm not sure if I could post this here Allah knows best, I just really wanted to get some feedback from other sisters since I'm new to the area that I live in,and I don't know many people. I am seven months pregnant and had been in an emotionaly abusive marriage. I prounced kula unknowing that I was pregnant, I was forced to pronounce Kula,because my ex husband was already moving his stuff out of my home when I got in from work. When I found out that I was pregnant I told him,and at first he was happy, but that quickly changed to resentment. He has done nothing my whole pregnancy,not one doctors appointment,no money nothing.I have been going through this with the mercy of Allah and my 14 year old daugther. I had to block out his numbers becasue he has not stopped with the verbal abuse, I am not sure what to do. I want him to be here for the baby but he has told me not to call him for anything until the baby is born. Sisters he has moved on with his life and completely forgotten about this baby soon to come. I have no family here, and his family stopped talking to me the minute we got divorced. I am preparing myself to be in the delivery room with just my daugther Alhumdulilah for her. If anyone has some advice on how I should handle this sitution it would be greatly appreciated. Love you all for the Sake of Allah! | |
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As salaam wa alakium. It take a man to raise a child. thats first and formost. Your ex zawj not being there is not worry because Allah knows best and he know that you would be a strong Muslimah because you are doing it by yourself with your daughter so never think that you will do less for this baby. You dont need no man that is going to beat on you Allah or Muhammed aint never harm their wife so why should a muslim ahki do. Thats HARAM To Allah. Alhumdullilah youll do find with your daughter by your side thats all the help you need | |
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"Peace be unto you and so may the mercy of Allah and His blessings". Salaams sis...wow...i'm reading your post and it makes me soooo angry that you have to go through that...or i should say...that you are going through that, because no one should "have to" go through anything like that! I agree with Anisah...what he is doing is WAY HARAAM, sis! It's said the best of muslim men are those who are GOOD to their wives!!! so, how he can justify his attitude or feel comfortable with what he's doing is beyond my comprehension!? My advice...pray, pray, pray...it's Ramadan too!>>> pray, pray, pray...like the song says sis, "I am not afraid to stand alone...if Allah is by my side"...~Native Deen. You got Allah that's all you need sis. Plus, you have your daughter, and if she's gold, she'll be standing with you too. Sis, I don't have alot, but if I can help you with something, let me know and I'll try to help okay...I can always mail you a little something. I love you for the sake of Allah too. You are not alone. =0) I'd like to choke homeboy if i could~astafirullah! =0( | |
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As-salamu Alaikum wa ramatullah wa barakatu Abusive is never right. allah does not approve of abuse, wives should be treated with the most respect. He actually did you a good thing by leaving. If he said you might could of lost your life and the baby. I had an emotional abusive husband. and when I tried to leave he tried to murder me. Allah was on my side because I survive. No woman should have to put up with any form of abuse. I had to raise three children by myself and I could say i did a great job Masha Allah Allah was there when I did not even know of Allah. Alhamdulliah, All this happen before i even knew of islam. I love Islam. Faith and prayer is the key to survival. May Allah guide you !!!!:wink: | |
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